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After a day of being mauled by your kids, are you finding yourself left with little desire for ANY physical contact, especially with your darling?
I loved hugging and cuddling my precious treasures… but some days it was too much! One kid would be super glued in my lap and the other one hanging from every available limb! Even the dog was in on some kind of conspiracy, hovering around my ankles, licking me, jumping up…
Then hubby walks through the door … so happy to see his family … grabs me for a smooch… and I’d scream… ‘don’t touch me!’
These tips will quickly rescue you from sensory overload and bring back your love for delicious grownup touching!
Give your toddler their favorite snuggly, explain how it really needs a snuggle and cuddle like Mommy gives them.
Play the ‘gentle touch’ game, where the toddler uses just their index finger to connect.
Make a date for an extended hug with your babies… later in the day.
The best tool in every Mom’s toolbox: redirect, redirect, redirect!
Give yourself permission to Priceline a hotel and leave the kids with your partner or trusted friend. Even a few hours alone in the hotel room with a bucket of ice cream and pay-per-view will do your mind and body wonders!
Make a quick exit each and every time relief shows up at your door. My husband and I spent a couple of years taking turns being “on” while the other parent recovered.
To help reconnect as a couple, make regular intimacy dates, sometimes for emotional connection, other times for sensual or sexual connection. They don’t need to be extravagant—simply sharing a glass of wine after the kids are in bed works wonders. Tip: Keep any issues of conflict on the shelf… this is intimacy time.
Remember to empathize with each other and try to meet each other’s needs. Sometimes that leads to some creative bartering, such as “Let me take a nap, darling, and later you’ll be glad I did.”
Ellen Kreidman, PhD, a marriage counselor and author of How Can We Light a Fire When the Kids Are Driving Us Crazy? says:
“The happiest, most well-adjusted children come from a home where Mommy and Daddy truly love each other. And that affection doesn’t just sustain itself — you need to stoke the fires every so often to keep it going.”
The next time your toddlers have you ‘too touched out,’ try these tips… and bring back the love of your darling’s touch.
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