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Permalink Reply by Dede on March 23, 2011 at 8:34am

Have you had your thyroid checked?? Sometimes there are health reasons. It is really up to "us" to get empowered and if you want to do it ... you Can!! Try baby steps with walking and you will find that it won't take time til you feel better and less depressed. Exercise is a wonderful mood enhancer:)

A doctor is simply stating the facts because it is their duty to tell their patients health implications. To insult someone with a statement like that is not very professional. Being overweight can eventually bring with it serious health complications and I truly hope that you can find a way to get your life on track to a healthier alternative and your mind in a happier place:)

Permalink Reply by Brenda Mackey on March 23, 2011 at 8:36pm

I under stand how you feel. I was feel terrible, though I still had my job when the trouble started. I have been overweight, yes even morbidly obese at times, for years. Recently I went into see a doctor because I was so tired, depressed, anxious, and sore in my joints that I could hardly function much less worry about food or excercise choices. I couldn't concertrate and even though I was always tired I didn't sleep well enough to wake feeling rested. As it turns out I had really low vitamin D3 level. They put me on medication for that and it started making a huge difference right away. Then I started trying to add fruits and veggies. Instead of dieting I just make myself eat good for me stuff. If I eat a bowl of oat meal and a banana at breakfast and I still want a donut or some bacon I wait 15 or 20 minutes, and if I still want it I have it. I often times don't go back for the richer food after the pause, or if I do I eat less of it because I already ate something healthy and I'm pretty full. That and walking. I started walking by force. I lost my car in an accident. So, with public transportation and walking as my only option I found that I really enjoyed walking in certain areas. I now try to make it to those areas a couple of times a week. Now I go to the gym several day a week too and I'm making progress. Part of do in this is knowing you are worth it. And you are. Everyone deserves to feel happy and comfortable with themselves from the inside out, and feel healthy. I can honestly say that today, at a size twenty and with about a million strechmarks from surgeries and pregnancies I have more body confidence than I did when I was a fit curvy size ten. Those days I had an eating disorder... I hated my body that much. I have learned to love myself and my body as an extension of the person I am and part of that means that I am taking care of myself. I hope you can do the same. It's not fast, and its not easy but it is doable. I have lost 30 pounds from my hight point and some days I'm up and some days I'm down. There are times when you give up, maybe for a week or two but then you just have to pick up and say "I'm worth this." and go on. I would walk through fire for my friends and family, most people would... but then they forget to give themselves the same support. Hang in there. I would love to buddy up with you if it might help you... and we can work through this together.

Permalink Reply by Angela Crossman on March 23, 2011 at 9:18pm

I do have thyroid issues and I am on mess...but since I lost my job last year I have gained lots of weight...but every time I try to do something...I get disheartened...so I cry and sleep....I take about 50 tylenol pms a week just to sleep and ignore the world....

Permalink Reply by Angela Crossman on March 23, 2011 at 11:21pm

what really bothers me is the fact that I love fashion, but I can not wear fashion..there is not haute couture for the obese, so I buy bags...totes, clutches, all designer bags..Betsey Johnson, Micheal Kors, baby phat, juicy couture, ralph lauren...jsut to name a few..It is the only thing that makes me feel good, because bags know no size..but I am always down on myself because of my weght..I try to lose it, but it always finds me...

I used to be thin..when I was 18, I was 119 pounds and I swore i was fat then cause all my friends we size 0 and i was like a size 8-10...

I sleep because then I dont eat..pitiful huh??

Permalink Reply by Brenda Mackey on March 24, 2011 at 12:11pm

I understand 100% about the fashion issue! It is sooo hard to find amazingly cute stuff in larger sizes. It takes a lot of work, looking through EVERYTHING to find the better peices and add them in with the basic things. A few great places to look are at torrid, maurices, and lane bryant. They all have websites so it doesn't matter where you live, and while 90% of the clothes (okay maybe like 98%) won't be what you are looking for there are usually a few awesome peices in each place. Hope finding a few extra pretty things helps you feel a little better. And, really who doesn't LOVE a great bag? :)

Permalink Reply by Angela Crossman on March 30, 2011 at 11:21am

Yeah..but I cannot even fit into a size 22 anymore and some of those places only go up to a 22-24...I have however started a new "thing" thanks to you Brenda..I have decided that just because I dont have a job anymore, doesnt mean I should not have a schedule...so I have started to live my life like I had a job, and that is helping me to lose weight..In the past week I have lost 2 pounds...I am thrilled!! Thank you!!!

Permalink Reply by Brenda Mackey on March 30, 2011 at 12:59pm

I'm so happy to see that I could help you out in some small way! I am actually crying, because it touched me so deeply. Great job on the two pounds! That is an awesome start!

Permalink Reply by Angela Crossman on March 30, 2011 at 1:34pm

Well....I have come to realize that while I may be overweight and unemployed...I am so much more fortunate than many....I will lose weight....it may be slow...but at least it is an accomplishment...and don't cry....lol...laugh....

Permalink Reply by Angel on March 24, 2011 at 2:07pm

There are some exercises for "Big" Divas in the Kentucky Group. Good Luck.

Permalink Reply by Angela Crossman on May 17, 2011 at 7:18pm

as of today, May 17..I have a job..in fact I just started today..and ( on my own) I have lost 15 pounds...and I feel better about myself that I have in a long time..a year to be exact..lol...but I am in a good place..I may not have a GREAT job, but I have a job and that alone has raised my spirits drastically....I havent seen a doc in w hile because I lost insurance, but I am still taking my meds.. and I try to eat better and switched to all diet sodas...now instead of 2000 calories of empty..( sodas) I have no calories..lol... thatnk you all..I am doing better and will continue to do so..and to those people who think being a bbw is yucky or nasty...kiss my bbb ( big beautiful butt)...:)

Permalink Reply by Brenda Mackey on May 17, 2011 at 8:35pm

Angela, I LOVE your attitude!  It is great to hear that you are doing so much better. I am so happy for you! I am now gaining weight and struggling with the idea that I have to keep doing so (I have a little peanut on the way and I already put on 8 pounds) but I love to see that you are losing the weight and working again and okay with yourself and your body again. So happy! High fives and congratulation hugs!

Permalink Reply by Angela Crossman on May 17, 2011 at 8:37pm

Congrats!!!is it your first??? Good luck and thanks!!