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What happens when your BFF doesn't like your BF?
How would you handle the situation if you found out your best friend hated your boyfriend. Not because he was a cheater or abusive, she simply thinks he's not a good/fun/friendly person. Would you tell that friend they are wrong? Would you stop talking to him/her? Would you just ignore it?
Or flip it, what would you do if you found out your boyfriend's friend thought nothing of you? Would you want your boyfriend to stand up for you? Stop talking to that friend? Or just stay out of it?
Is it really important that our friends like our lovers?
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Permalink Reply by Josy Lawrence on -
I think everyone has a right to their opinion of a certain person, but it is good if they can back it up with why they don't like them. I have a couple friends who dont like my boyfriend, but that would never change the way I feel about him or my friends. I appreciate my friends's honesty, I just know my boyfriend more than they do and know that he is the kind of person I want to be with. If my boyfriend's friends didn't like me, I expect my boyfriend to stand up for why he likes me but again, it is their opinion.
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Permalink Reply by Kristina Streeter on -
This is the way I look at it, if your best friend is TRULY your best friend it won't matter if they like him or don't. For instance, my best friend's husband can be a bit much - now don't get me wrong, I don't hate him by any means, I just don't agree with how he is a lot of the time - BUT I wouldn't never make that something that is in the middle of our friendship. He has a mouth on him, is a bit vulgar, has an awkward and a bit annoying of a sense of humor and can kind of be a "stick in the mud" to put it nicely. I don't like how he gives her guilt trips about not being this "wonderful wife" or that he could be a bit nicer about her weight, and I've voiced my concerns to her nicely about this and it's never become an issue around our friendship. The only time it kind of did is when he husband was about to overstep and confront my marriage about his opinions on it when his is far from perfect itself.
I think the key to having differences about a friend's spouse is approaching it nicely and in a situation saying "I really don't like how he upsets you or talks to you like that". It's inevitable that you aren't going to get along with every single one of your friends' spouses because personalities conflict all the time. Its all about how you handle it and letting them know that above all else, they are your friend and their spouse doesn't effect that.
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