Threesomes

Hi Divas,
I hope everyone's doing well so far this week.

As a freelance writer and a woman, who's striving to understand relationships better, I hope you'll be okay with me asking your opinions at times. I'm enjoying the Diva Cafe and am glad that so many women can bond in this cyber format. Thanks Dede!!!

I wrote an article yesterday on the subject of "threesomes" for couples. Someone commented, because he or she was offended by what I said. Help me out here, Divas...

Question: How do you feel about "threesomes?" Would you feel comfortable sharing your man with another woman? Thank you in advance for chiming in.

Try this: http://www.examiner.com/x-2930-Denver-Womens-Relationship-Examiner~...

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Permalink Reply by Dede on January 30, 2010 at 12:24pm

It was a great article.. thanks:) Have to run. Going to work today:(

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Permalink Reply by Karen Kennedy on January 30, 2010 at 3:11pm

Thank you so much Dede. Work??? Well, thank God you have work to go to, in this ravaged economy! Take care woman. Talk to you soon.

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Permalink Reply by Dede on February 1, 2010 at 2:00am

I am very fortunate Karen to have a good job. I think about this every single day!

Karen Kennedy said:

Thank you so much Dede. Work??? Well, thank God you have work to go to, in this ravaged economy! Take care woman. Talk to you soon.

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Permalink Reply by Adriana Sahagun Martinez on February 9, 2010 at 11:33am

I feel that threesome are just fantasies that we may think of ,but never really act on them. I can't say I've never thought about it, but I have never tried it! I As for sharing my Husband I don't think I could , but I also feel, if he really feels strong about trying it .. Then It's time for a heart to heart talk.

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Permalink Reply by Karen Kennedy on February 9, 2010 at 11:39am

Hi Adrianna,
Thank you for your reply to my post. For most monogamous couples it is a fantasy. My advice is that if it's something one hasn't done in a drunken stooper during college, forget it! Things get way too complicated and if precautions aren't taken, it could wreck lives. Stop by anytime, Diva!

Adriana Sahagun Martinez said:

I feel that threesome are just fantasies that we may think of ,but never really act on them. I can't say I've never thought about it, but I have never tried it! I As for sharing my Husband I don't think I could , but I also feel, if he really feels strong about trying it .. Then It's time for a heart to heart talk.

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Permalink Reply by Jennifer Uhart on February 23, 2010 at 12:33am

Technically, the vows do say to forsake all others. I guess if you're not married, you're not breaking a vow.

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Permalink Reply by Karen Kennedy on February 23, 2010 at 12:55am

Hi Jennifer,
Thank you for the reply to my post. I'm all for commitment, and I believe that couples should love and respect each other. Even for those who are not legally married, but choose to peacefully co-exist, there is still trust that must be established and maintained. I posed this question about "threesomes" because of perplexing personal experiences. Suffice it to say, I don't believe that a monogamous couple should bring other people into their intimate lives. Take care.

KJ.

Jennifer Uhart said:

Technically, the vows do say to forsake all others. I guess if you're not married, you're not breaking a vow.

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Permalink Reply by Amy Poulin on September 15, 2010 at 2:35pm

I have tried it, and I did enjoy it. But it was my decision to do it and not something that my husband insisted on or "pushed" on me. I was the one that found the third person, a female, and I was the one that basically controlled the situation. It came after months and months of talking etc between my husband and I, and honestly I enjoyed it. It has been several years since it happened, but I would do it again. But I would offer this advise....Be very open with your partner about why you want the threesome and very open to everyone's feelings about it. If there is ANY amount of uncertainty about feelings or why you want to or even if you really want to, then it will not be a good experience. As for sharing my man, as long as I know it is a purely sexual experience and I am also enjoying it, then I have no problem. The problem would come when it was done behind my back or because of an emotional connection that i was not involved in or with. My two cents, and I hope to hear other peoples as well. Enjoy your week.

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Permalink Reply by nikkianna clifford on January 27, 2011 at 9:46pm

i never did a threesome tht is my fantasy an i want to do tht wit 2 other females first

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Permalink Reply by Karen Kennedy on January 28, 2011 at 11:40am

It's good that you had a favorable experience in that regard. I find that men are ALWAYS comfortable bringing another female into his bed, but if his woman wants to be adventurous and bring another man into the picture, it seems to make him uncomfortable. Go figure! Thanks for the reply Rebecca. Write anytime!

rebecca moore said:

yes ive done it.we have a wonerful relationship.would i do it again? yes

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Permalink Reply by Karen Kennedy on January 28, 2011 at 11:42am

I sometimes think that it is better to experience it with people you don't care about. This "threesomes" concept has caused many problems for people who are in a loving, monogamous relationship. Of course, as I mentioned in another reply, the guy is happy to bring in another female. It seems to make him squirmish when another male is mentioned.
nikkianna clifford said: