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Hi Divas!
I really need to get some other opinions about my dilema. Here's the situation and question:
OK, my husband's brother, R.B., died last spring, RB. and my husband wete best riends. RB and my husband love golf so after his death last year, one of my husband's cousins planned what RB always wanted: A Golf Tournament/?Family Reunion. They had the 1st annual tourney last yr on Labor Day. This year, the 2nd annual tourney/reunion. My husband and his entire family are from Nova Scotia and Toronto. I was raised in Fla and Tx. We had very different backgrounds and both of us can say, we don't relish each others families.
Ok, here's the sticky park : My mother has dementia and is quickly losing her memory. Her confusion level is high. We can only afford one trip and my husband said, "I understand you want to spend time with your mother before she becomes unable to recognize you. My Mother has been in hospice for years, but I think the end is near.
Should I go with my husband, or to see my mother? I look forward to some help/!
Linda
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Permalink Reply by The BAM Project, Anita Smithson on -
omg, girl i am so sorry you are in the cituation to have to make this decision. if you need me you can call me later this afternoon and chat, that is a hard one and to much to write here. my number is 916-792-3124 i am in california. call me after 5pm my time and we can chat. i love to give M.E.I. (motivation, encouragement, inspiration) to others and today I want to offer that to you! keep your head up girl, the answer will come. do you have a way to make extra income to Afford to go on the BOTH trips? i would also love to share a way you can!!! ~Anita
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Permalink Reply by Dede on
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To be honest Linda.... I would go visit your mother. So happy that your husband is supportive of this and I think he is right. Knowing what a wonderful Diva you are, I am certain you will have regrets if you do not visit with her. Your husband will have his family to spend time with and so you should not feel guilty:)
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Permalink Reply by The BAM Project, Anita Smithson on
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I do agree with Dede as well. It is a hard one, BUT Linda if you have your husbands Support, then go see your mother. The Lord is showing you the thing to do, thru your husbands support! I wish you the best and will pray for you! I would love to M.E.I. with you, if you would like.
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Permalink Reply by Amber Painter on -
I would go see your Mother!!! There will be other trips( even next year) with your husband, remember you have a lifetime with him, and you don't know how much longer your mother will be with you, so you should take an un-sellfish route and see your mom, I am hoping and praying for you and your mother and I hope that she is doing okay!
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Permalink Reply by Rebecca on -
I was replying to this post and noticed the date and realized I'm probanly late so please don't leave us hangin....what did you do, did you go see your mom? I lost my mom 2 1/2 years ago so hard didn't spend enough time with her she was only like 60. I miss her. So do tell how's mom... Lol
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Permalink Reply by Renee Beets-Tupperware on -
I would spend time with your mother. I was faced with a similar situation a few years back. My husband is from tx and am from ct. do not get along with his family. they all fight and make life hard for those that do not like there way of living. We any ways . I told my husband that me and my two kids were staying here in ct and that you were more than welcome to stay with us or go be with your family. He chose to be with his family in tx and had a bad time there. He try to amke me feel guilty but it did not work. Take care
Renee
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