Does your Guy Allow you the Freedom to be Yourself??

I think that it is very important to have the ability to spend time with friends and explore life a bit without sharing every free moment with your guy. We need that "me" time perhaps more than even men do.

Does your Guy understand that you need time without him and give you the time you need to spend with friends and activities that don't always revolve around him?

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Permalink Reply by Judith C on February 25, 2011 at 12:25pm

It's not that he "allows" it; he encourages me to go out with friends. I decided to drive up to Atlanta, GA (which is a good 12 hrs away) with a friend. He even went ahead and paid for the hotel. He's great when it comes to space.

I'm a big fan of tattoos, piercings/ gauges, and heavy loud music. He's very conservative when it comes to those things, yet he was very accepting when I decided to go for my third tattoo, which understandably required a lot of discussion.

I agree that space is a must in a relationship. If you pull the string too hard it can break. I for one would break it myself.

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Permalink Reply by Dede on February 25, 2011 at 12:31pm

Sounds like you have a winner and that is so important that you trust the person to give them the space to feel secure to be their own person. It also has to be reciprocated!! I have that in my relationship and it is awesome!

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Permalink Reply by Angie on February 26, 2011 at 1:46am

I do a lot of "me" time.. and he happens to be okay with it.. like being on the computer a lot.. i personally like to watch one sope opera and a tv show (House) and he's perfectly fine if i completely ignore him cuz i'm too busy watching tv with a bag of hershey's kisses next to me.. I do too... I let him have his space.. he likes doing guy stuff.. i dont know like cars and fixing stuff.. We do respect our own time..

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Permalink Reply by Lori Wagner on February 26, 2011 at 2:13pm

I do alot of Me time but I am also VERY independent and A type personality so I would make my own decisions anyway. Not that I don't make decisions with My Spouse. But I traveled a ton before we married. Plus Being in the Military in a male dominated Career Field (Law Enforcement) and having my own Business as a Life Coach/Mentor and consultant he understands that I interact with a ton of people and that is just part of my life I guess. I see myself as Very Blessed!

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Permalink Reply by Heather on February 26, 2011 at 2:52pm

Some Times / NO ......He hates My Computer / Even though We NOW Live apart .

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Permalink Reply by Heather on February 26, 2011 at 2:54pm

Even If I dont answer my Text messages. Or call him to show I care enough . Even like last night He text me asking me what I was doing , I told him watching Twilight . He was all like ok whatever....

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Permalink Reply by Kathy Neubauer on February 26, 2011 at 4:41pm

I must say I have the greatest hubby in the world. He believe's in me, and that is hard to do because I have such an entrepreneur spirit in me. I am always thinking, sometimes my head hurts so bad in the middle of the night with brain activity I have to get up and write it all down before I loose it all. LOL

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Permalink Reply by Jenni Neely on February 26, 2011 at 10:12pm

My boyfriend understands that being at work makes me very happy, rather than being unproductive or bored at home. Even though I love him and love lounging around in the house or go on trips, I feel the need to balance my work/play habits. He gets sad with my 9-5 schedule and jumps at the chance to pick me up for lunch! That's how I know he cherishes every little second he can get with me!

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Permalink Reply by Sarah Thawley on February 27, 2011 at 3:42pm

Heather:

My husband hates my computer too and we are married! I sometimes wonder.... You see we have plenty of time apart between our jobs. When he comes home he watches tv and when he is off he watches tv. But if I am on the computer which to me is no different than watching tv he gets pissy about it. He says I am on this thing all the time. Which I am but he is watching tv in his down time so what is the big difference here? At least, when I am on the computer I am actually doing something productive and constructive which typically relates to my Avon business.

Gotta love men! I sometimes wish I had a radar to know what was going on in my mans head! :)

Oh and because I am a transplant to his homestate I decided to make my own friends which I was successful at. Now, whenever a friend wants to stop by or I go out he typically has an opinion about this too! Do you see the smoke coming out of my ears yet? :-) I do love my husband but sometimes I feel that the stuff he gets upset over is just downright petty and ridiculous! Hmmph!

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Permalink Reply by Amanda G on February 27, 2011 at 6:14pm

My husband has always encouraged me to do what makes me happy. In fact, he enjoys the time he has to himself at home alone! We love to spend time together & enjoy it, but we are both happier when we have our own things to share. I started a woman's group for other married gals & take classes. He gets just as excited as I do when I have things going on!

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Permalink Reply by Madison O'Sullivan on February 28, 2011 at 7:07pm

I have always been lucky in the sense that my husband encourages my independence and supports my friendships and social life. I don't think I would be with someone who didn't. My time is very important to me as important as my sleep, lol.

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Permalink Reply by Nicole Alston on March 1, 2011 at 10:56pm

My hubby loves that about me. He allows me to be free to say and do the things I want to do. There is a boundary there, but when we both are ready for each other, we make it happen. We put each other first. We had always established those goals early in the marriage and understand that sometime we need our time and space away & sometimes we want to be with each other all the time. My marriage for me....(a happy balance)