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Can We Find Love Online??
I was on dating sites for 5 years and actually met my current boyfriend online. It was a slow and agonizing journey to reach this point but meeting him has made all of the not so great experiences worth every bit of it!
For the most part, I recommend online dating. Some of the arguments against it are that you don't really know who you are dating and that it isn't safe.
There are ways to help safeguard the process and my feeling is that you don't really ever completely know anyone!
What are your thoughts and experiences and I will share some of mine:)
Tags: Dating, dating, online, relationships
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Permalink Reply by Maureen on -
Honestly, I am unsure on this one. A long time ago, I actually went to a dating service. At the time, I was drop dead gorgeous. When I walked in, the person asked me why would I need a dating service! At the time, I did not think very much of my beauty, I thought I was ok looking, but being self consceince over my lack of large breasts, sent me in to a very strange period of low esteem. Anyway, the point is, over time, the way people secure dates, romance, or just plain company has evolved with the times. Years and years ago, you had Party Lines. Those of you too young to know about party lines.....google it.....In the seventies, they had Key Parties, fondue parties, and even disco skating parties. The eighties saw the rise of dating services. Now we have internet dating. I could go into a long conversation on the pros and cons of internet dating, but the bottom line, is that no matter when you are looking for love or companionship, the needs remain the same but the ways to secure it evolve with the trends and technology!
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Permalink Reply by Dede on
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Maureen, you know some of my own struggles with men that I met online. It enabled me to meet more people than I would have had the opportunity to. There are dishonest people on and off the internet. What happens with the internet is that you sometimes become "one of a few more many" options that they have to select from.
It can be very tempting to keep testing the waters when you have an endless supply of people to choose from. After awhile though, the excitement wanes when you realize that there is not usually substance associated with variety:)
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Permalink Reply by Nikye Pennington on -
I met my husband online, but not from the typical dating site or personals. We actually met playing a video game together. It was great because we had a common interests, enjoyed an extracurricular activity together and there was no pressure to appear one way or another. After playing this game together for about 2 years and chatting on a messenger service we moved out conversation to phones and then decided to meet in person. 6 month anniversary on Friday!
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Permalink Reply by Andrea Butler on -
Congratulations! This story seems of a fairy tale or a dream come true. I wish the two of you many wonderful years to come. Thanks for sharing your experience, and a motivation to continue online dating!!
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Congrats Nikye!!
So happy for you:) There are so many ways to meet people online other than just with dating sites! Glad that yours had such a happy ending:)
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Permalink Reply by Denise Beyer on -
My husband and I met on a dating website and got married one year later, on the anniversary of the day we met. I agree with all of the above comments about people being dishonest, etc. I also think you have to deal with a lot of "toads" before you find your prince. ;-)
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Permalink Reply by DeAnna on -
yes u can lol.. i met this guy online through yahoo personals, and he led me to his best friend which is now my future husband.. i have dated him on and off for 11 yrs, and been living withhim for 6 yrs and now married for 5 mo so yes i do believe you can
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Permalink Reply by Mindy Davison on -
So happy that you did Mindy. There are nice guys out there. Unfortunately, sometimes we pass them over looking for the "perfect" guy who does not exist.
Yes, I believe it is possible to find love online, I met the man who I consider 2b my soulmate. We actually met on eharmony....
I never thought in a million years I'd meet someone on there. I mean a dating site? Come on, seriously?? But, he's wonderful, treats my girls & myself better than I could've ever imagined =)
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I dealt with MANY toads along the way and a great deal of heart break but that is the dating process. It enabled me to meet many more people than I would have had the opportunity to without online dating.
Denise Beyer said:My husband and I met on a dating website and got married one year later, on the anniversary of the day we met. I agree with all of the above comments about people being dishonest, etc. I also think you have to deal with a lot of "toads" before you find your prince. ;-)
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Permalink Reply by Nicolette Stevens on -
Can we find love online? ABSOLUTELY!!!! I was divorced and severely out of the dating game; had dedicated myself to the kids and was devastated when they grew up and left me me.....the nerve...lol After my daughter's second year of college, I realized that although my children loved me dearly, they had lives of their own and snuggling with mommy just didn't cut it. (Well my daughter will still snuggle sometimes when she visits). Anyway I decided it was time to start dating again.....what I didn't realize was that it is not simple. I had to understand that if a man was looking at me, it just might be because I'm cute and not that there is a stain on my blouse (you know the mommy mentality). Anyway, going to clubs and bars every weekend was not my cup of tea so I began to check out online dating. Wow, it was better than the club. You can flirt online, even love and leave'em if you want to, make friends online and actually meet someone special. It is better than the club because you don't have to buy a new outfit, worry about some guy trailing you around all night because he bought you a drink and you can do it from bed (alone).
Back to the finding love online. I found mine and married him in January 2010. Divas, you should try it, then try it again.
Diva
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Permalink Reply by Rebecca on -
Of course. And it's fun lol. I've met all kinds of friends online and dates a roomate workout buddy and yes my husband. I just make sure Im was super careful set boundaries and stick to em and if anything feels weird get out lol have fun be safe
Nicolette Stevens said:Can we find love online? ABSOLUTELY!!!! I was divorced and severely out of the dating game; had dedicated myself to the kids and was devastated when they grew up and left me me.....the nerve...lol After my daughter's second year of college, I realized that although my children loved me dearly, they had lives of their own and snuggling with mommy just didn't cut it. (Well my daughter will still snuggle sometimes when she visits). Anyway I decided it was time to start dating again.....what I didn't realize was that it is not simple. I had to understand that if a man was looking at me, it just might be because I'm cute and not that there is a stain on my blouse (you know the mommy mentality). Anyway, going to clubs and bars every weekend was not my cup of tea so I began to check out online dating. Wow, it was better than the club. You can flirt online, even love and leave'em if you want to, make friends online and actually meet someone special. It is better than the club because you don't have to buy a new outfit, worry about some guy trailing you around all night because he bought you a drink and you can do it from bed (alone). Back to the finding love online. I found mine and married him in January 2010. Divas, you should try it, then try it again.
Diva
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Permalink Reply by CocoKelly on -
Finding love online is definately attainable. I found my wonderful husband online and 6 months later we were married. I have used online dating in the past, but just to meet new people. After graduating college I decided to put my mind to it and find someone who I could be serious about. Well, we chatted over the phone for about 2 weeks, then finally met. He lived 2 hrs away and our 1st meeting was miscommunicated, so we actually didn't get to meet on our 1st date. We both showed up, but he was inside while I was waiting outside in my car lol! I drove home with no intent to meet him again, but we did.
We met again the weekend after Valentines and he never wanted me to go back home. He asked me to move in, don't know why I said yes, but I did (I had never lived with any man before that). I drove 2 hrs, got my stuff, got a job and shortly after he proposed. My response was, I would love to marry you, but not yet.
Well a month or 2 into us living together things started to go all wrong. I moved out without letting him know( I know it was wrong, but I don't like arguments). One week later he found me by accident (or fate) after searching for me everyday after I left. He drove hours insearch of me and even drove 2 hrs to find me in my old college town. The night when he gave up looking was the night he found me. We both decided to go out that very same night and have some fun and we ended up side by side in the very same parking lot right next to each other.
Days after, he proposed again and 2 weeks later we were married. Now 2 yrs and 4months later we are still together ad happier than ever. Who would have ever guessed.
As a result of usfind each other, we decided to start an online dating website when others can meet their soulmate.
We offer it free just like the site we met each other on. For anyone who would like to give it a try, just go to www.mycaribbeansoulmate.com. Who knows if your husband i waiting just like mine was. Life is just amazing and full of surprises. Enjoy!
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